I'm struggling.
I found out this morning that my husband has pretty much been acting out for the past six months.
I AM BLIND!
I hear the term 'rescuing' tossed around a lot. I understand the concept - I think. I have no plans to rescue him. I can't. How can I?
So I plan on being hands off. But I'm scared. Is not rescuing and being hands off going to give him permission to keep acting out? How do I create boundaries for that without being bossy and fixy?
I don't know what to do.
He is active in the program. He goes to group every week. We talk about what we learn at group.
I have asked him probably 4 times point blank over the last six months how sober he is and each time he whips out a number that is consistent with the last time he got caught.
I don't know how to process that.
I'm so numb right now I can't even muster tears, anger, frustration... nothing.
I'm blank.
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ReplyDeleteApple, I don't have any good answers, but my heart hurts for you and I wish I could hug you.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. I know how it feels to find out things were so, so different from what you thought, and knew, and hoped, AND BELIEVED. My heart goes out to you.
ReplyDeleteIt turns out things are much worse than I originally thought. It sucks. Just chewing on it all right now. THanks guys.
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